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Tuesday, 6 May 2014

Hungry? 7 Healthy Aphrodisiacs To Eat For Hotter Sex Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/2014214822/eat-these-healthy-aphrodisiac-foods-hotter-sex#ixzz30vtddgFO

Your dietary guide to getting it on.
Have a special date night planned?
Listen up because you are not going to want to miss this. Science has proven that eating these foods will increase your sex drive for your big day. For example, aside from making your breath fresh, mint also calms you down and sets the mood. (Can you say, "yummy"?) Not only do these sexy foods put you and your partner in the mood for the deed, they also have health benefits! So get munchin'.

Must-Watch: New Yorkers Reveal How They Lost Their Virginity Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/2014214903/must-watch-video-new-yorkers-virginity-loss-first-time-sex#ixzz30vtVxoaU

Hey, everyone has an interesting story to tell!
Everyone has a story about their first time. Mostly, they aren't glamorous. In this day and age we expect their first sexual partner to be a former flame. Or perhaps not even a flame, but one of those people we are embarrassed we even gave the time of day.
The story will probably be about a gross, strange, short and uncomfortable first encounter with an act we have heard so much about—sex. It's certainly a coming of age story that can lend itself to comedy and luckily Ilana Glazer aka Chronic Gamer Girl, is around to take the comedic opportunity to take a video of strangers telling these stories.
Watch New Yorkers of all ages, sexual orientations, sexes spill their first time stories to the comedian while she cracks a few jokes and even flirts with them.

Season Of Love: 5 Reasons May Is Going To Be A Total Sex Fest

You can thank Mother Nature from waking you from your sexless winter hibernation.
It's the first day in the month of May and in case you haven't peeked outside yet, spring has arrived! Buds are blossoming into flowers. Babies are being born and kids are running out to play. The warm sun is breaking ... and couples everywhere are feeling a little friskier than they have in the past few winter months. You can thank Mother Nature from waking you from your sexless winter hibernation.
The history of May Day harkens back to thousands of years ago, rooted in the Celtic festival of Beltane, which, in its heyday was basically a riotous sex party. May Day means ushering in the season of love (and lovemaking — wink wink) and here is some hard research that proves those ancient May Day revelers weren't so far off mark.
1. Peak babymaking occurs in the springtime.
In the northern hemisphere where there are drastic seasonal differences, scientists found that couples were getting pregnant the most in the spring. Why? Hopeful parents-to-be are having a little more fun in the sun! Scientists at Austria's University of Graz conducted a study and found that women ovulate more in the springtime. The secret? Sunshine! Vitamin D helps boost a woman's sex hormones progesterone and estrogen by 13 percent and 21 percent respectively. Additionally, the production of Melanocyte Stimulating Hormone (MSH) and serotonin have been directly linked to sunlight exposure. All of these chemicals combined make a strong sexytime cocktail. They help regulate a woman's menstrual cycle and boost her sex drive, making a little miracle more likely.
2. And at the same time, babies are being born all over the place.
Historically speaking — specifically from the late 1700s up until the '40s — there was a peak birth rate in the month of March. This pattern indicates a peak conception period in late spring and early summer — meaning May Day!
3. Online porn searches are at an all-time high.
Even though the sun is inviting us to go out and "play," some are still hiding from the dark of their homes. Citing a study published in the journal Archives Of Sexual Behavior, researchers tracked Google keyword searches in the United States for pornography, prostitution and dating sites over the course of five years. The real-time results indicated that search volume surrounding naughtier terms peaked between the winter and early summer — springtime, that is.
4. There's all that eyecandy to ogle.
In a poll conducted by the Associated Press-Weather Underground, people agree that spring is the designated season of love: it's prime time to fall in love, date around, meet someone new or get married. Additionally, two-thirds of people polled find potential more attractive in shorts and bathing suits than bundled up in heavy sweaters and boots. Not exactly a surprise there, but it bears repeating what's on everyone's minds!
5. Spring simply gets us in "the mood."
In a survey conducted by Wet Intimacy Products, 78 percent of respondents announced they feel sexier when the temperature starts to rise. Hence, alot of sexytime starts to occur. Thirty-eight percent of the same respondents admitted that they find their inhibitions are lower in the warm months: nearly half are more likely to flirt with a stranger and 38 percent are more likely to have a one night stand.

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What Men & Women Really Think Of These 7 Sex Positions

Same sex position, different points of view.
Sex is … complicated. Of course it can also be mind-blowing, surprising, awkward, or even flat-out horrible, depending on chemistry, levels of physical attraction and arousal, mood lighting, etc.
Like we've done in the past, we decided to interview men and women about their position-preferences for a few different ones, and it's safe to say that we got some, er, colorful responses.
1. Sex On A Chair
He Said: "I dig this one. It gives me more control of her hips than when I'm lying down and she’s on top, plus it feels a little bit dirtier. And banging her from behind while she's draped over the arm of the couch is always fun too." - Nick, 31
She Said: "Riding him on my knees while he's seated in a chair or on the couch is my absolute favorite position. You get the control of being on top, but it feels more intimate because he’s in an upright position and is closer to you, can be whispering dirty things in your ear, all that jazz." – Stephanie, 23
2. Legs Over His Shoulders
He Said: "This one is great for the guy because the penetration is so much deeper, plus the visual angle is great because we have a great view of going in and out of her. That's always hot."  - Tim, 27
She Said: "I personally don't like legs on his shoulders. I feel like a lot of younger guys I've had sex with use this as a go-to because there's a lot of hype that women like it, but honestly unless your super flexible and already accommodated to his penis size, this position is uncomfortable and can be a little too much. Plus, everything is like, all scrunched up. Definitely not the most flattering angle." – Jenna, 22
3. Laying On The Bed While He's Standing Up
He Said: "It's usually a quickie if we're having sex like this, but I like it because I get to see her boobs bounce around so much." – Ryan, 26
She Said: "I like this position because I usually got into it because he threw me onto the bed, which is incredibly sexy. You have to make sure no one else is home though, because it's definitely pretty obvious when the bed is creaking out of control." - Brianne, 24
4. Guys Holding Girl Up
He Said: "It's always hard to have to hold the girl up, but its also really fun every once in a while. Definitely on her birthday." – Sam, 22
She Said: "I love it. It makes me feel like a rockstar because he's holding me up. Plus, it's very animalistic." – Tanya, 23
5. Shower Sex
He Said: "Appealing until you do it, but then you realize that there's not a lot of space and it kind of sucks." – Andrew, 23
She Said: "Well, water washes away any and all … uh, natural lubricants, so, that makes it less fun." – Michelle, 33
6. 69
He Said: "I hate when it gets to the point where your really getting to enjoy yourself, and then she stops giving you head because she’s enjoying herself." Mark, 30
She Said: "I would literally hate for a guy to be on top when we’re 69ing. I would shove him off of me and be like ‘What are you doing?!’ He'd be crushing me.” –Brianne, 24
7. Cowgirl
"A lot of times they want to do certain motions to get them off in terms of clitoral stimulation, but it’s not really doing too much for me. Which is all good, go ahead and do it, but I will say that’s not my favorite part." – Nick, 31
“I hate when guys try to change the motion and I’m like wait I’m not doing this for you, I’m doing this for me! Jeez just give me a minute.” Alyssa, 23

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How to Ace a First Date in NYC Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/experts/marina-margulis/how-ace-first-date-nyc#ixzz30vn2xc2z

She agreed to go out with you. Now what?
The women of New York City are bold and beautiful; smart and stylish; sophisticated and experienced. If you’re about to take one of them out on a date for the first time, you better know how to treat her.

Contrary to popular belief, there are dos and don’ts of a first date. And knowing the proper way to treat a woman the first time you take her out has many benefits beyond landing a second date. Need some tips? Here is how to ace a first date in the Big Apple.
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Enhance Your Image
Most women consider first dates very important. Even if it’s at a casual location, it’s still a formal event. For this reason, it’s important to look your best and dress according to the tone of the restaurant or meeting place. But looking your best is easier said than done. How do you know what type of clothes look good on your frame? Should you leave your beard or shave it off? If you need a little assistance in this area, consider hiring a professional image consultant. The vital lessons you will learn from an image consultant can help you enhance your personal style and look your best.

Live in the Moment
Even if you look your best, a bad attitude can ruin your first date. Instead, live in the moment. How? Forget about what happened yesterday or even five minutes before you got to the date. Focus on things that will bring you two together instead of bad stories that might scare her away. Living in the moment also includes the way you look at her, the things you say, and how you say them. For example, what things can you say to show that you’re focusing on the other person?

Over 40 And Single? 10 Lies You Are Telling Yourself About Love

Single and sick of it? Find out what you can do to change your behavior.
If you are a single woman over 40, you have a love history. You've been in relationships before and you may want one now, but for whatever reason you haven't found the right person yet. Maybe you're divorced and frustrated with dating or haven't ventured back out to the dating pool. You could be a widow and unsure of ever finding another man like your husband. Perhaps you were in a live-in or long-term relationship that ended, so you're single again.
As a dating coach for women over 40, I know finding love the second time around (or even the first) is not easy. Still, people fall in love every day and many of my clients do find that loving man. So what's the problem?
This might seem harsh, but you are likely telling yourself several lies about love after 40 that are hurting you. These negative beliefs prevent you from connecting, or worse, stop you from even looking. Clients come to me with these limiting ideas about dating, love and men and it's my job to help them turn things around. Working with me, women transform the lies to create opportunities. And that's how they manage to find love again!
Here are some of the lies you may be telling yourself that are preventing you from finding love.
  1. All the good men are taken. This is what I hear most frequently from clients. However, thinking about this statistically, there just has to be good single men available since half the adult population in the U.S. is single. Men get divorced for the same reason women do; they grew apart from their wives, the wives cheated, or circumstances just changed. Some men had their heart broken earlier in life and are just recovering and ready now. There are lots of reasons why good men are single and looking for a woman like you. The fact is that now, more than any other time in history, there are a lot of people in their 40s, 50s and 60s who are single and looking for love. So don’t believe that there are no good men out there!
  2. I already had my one shot at love. Widows often believe this, particularly if they had a wonderful relationship with their husbands. They come away thinking that they will never find such a good man again. However, this is exactly the reason why it is possible; if you found great love once, you can certainly do it again. You have the track record for success. Consider your circumstances differently and recognize that you are a magnet for love, since your energy is filled with loving thoughts from your past.
  3. Looking for love is not worth the trouble. Dating is tough and you may reach a point when you feel that it is too exhausting and too much effort. But that feeling is just a symptom of your belief that you don't think it's possible to find love. On the other hand, if you really believe that you will find love, then you know every man you meet brings you one step closer to finding the right man for you. I dated 30 men in 15 months to find my adorable husband. Was I ever sad, disappointed or disgusted? Of course! But I would remind myself that I was on the path to find love and nothing was going to get in my way. So nothing did. It took dating 30 men, but it was completely worth every bad date and heartbreak along the way. Dating is a process. Be in it to win and find the love you deserve.
  4. If the guy's not a 10, I can't be bothered. If you feel this way, you will surely be single for a long time! After 40, the chances of Mr. Right knocking on your door are zero. You are going to have to get off the couch and do your part to cross paths with lots of men. Dating is a numbers game so the more men you meet, the better your chances for finding the love you want. Will every man you meet be perfect? Of course not! Most of the men you meet will not be right. But you don't need them to be because you only need one. In addition, no man is perfect (and neither are you). The perfect man does not exist; he is a myth and a fairytale. However, I guarantee there is a man who is the right one for you. Get over this idea of perfection or you will stay single.
  5. He's not as great as my girlfriends. I'm often surprised when a woman compares the men she dates to her girlfriends. Seriously? How could a man ever compare to your girlfriends? Men are not like women! They are dramatically different. We are not brought up the same, we have different innate skill sets, and our brains are wired differently. We may be equals, but that does not make us the same. Expecting a man to be like your girlfriends means he is bound to fail. Most men will never be as thoughtful or have the same depth of understanding as your girlfriends. However, that doesn't mean that men don't have their own amazing contribution to make to your life. The right man expands and enhances your life in ways your girlfriends never will. My advice is to let go of this idea, because it will prevent you from finding the love you want.
  6. Most men are liars, cheats and players. Women who have been burned by a man (or know people who have) tend to believe this, which I can understand. As your dating coach, I ask you to consider whether it can really be true that all men are like this. Mathematically, it is just not possible. There are definitely men who do not cheat, lie or refuse to settle down. Personally, I found a man who is not like that and I have many clients who have also found a fabulous, moral guy. When you believe that all men are terrible, you will look for evidence that your viewpoint is correct. If you believe men are wonderful, you will see examples to support that. Start looking for examples of quality men and you will notice that they are all around you.
  7. I never meet any interesting men. After 12 years of being a dating coach, one thing I know for sure about women who say this is that it's not that they don’t meet interesting men — they don’t meet any men at all! These women usually aren't active and don't date much or interact with men. So it’s no surprise that don't meet anyone interesting. I was like this myself before I got serious about finding love. Another note about wanting someone "interesting.” I've noticed many women find nice men to be boring, and bad boys to be interesting. Yes, a bad boy's unpredictable and aloof personality does make him intriguing and you want to unravel the mystery. He becomes a challenge for you to win over. However, a bad boy won't change his stripes for you and won't be good relationship material. If you insist on dating bad boys, count on heartbreak and torturous love affairs that do not satisfy.
  8. There aren't any single men where I live. One of my clients, Sally, insisted that all of the men in her town were married. This is similar to the #1 lie that all the good men are taken, but with a local spin. Granted, some areas do have more married than single people. But overall, 50% of adult Americans are not hitched, so they must live near you too. Through coaching, Sally, who had lost her ability to notice men, was able to open her eyes to the ones around her and find one for herself.
  9. Men today do not want a relationship. Let's refer to Lie #6 about all men being liars, cheaters and players; obviously, generalizations don't hold much water. While not all men want a long-term relationship, there are certainly some who do. If you want love, you need to do your part to meet plenty of men and screen them. Coach Amy Schoen says one way to know if a man is serious about finding love is the way he talks about his life and dating. For example, if the guy you meet mentions moving or how much he loves women, he's probably not ready settle down. If he says he's tired of dating, he might be more serious about finding love. There are definitely men out there who would be thrilled to fall in love with you, but you need to do your part.
  10. I don't have time to date. This is something women tell themselves constantly. Yes, I know you are busy. But you make time for what you decide is important. To find love, you'll need to make it a priority. Carve time out of your calendar at least once a week to meet new people. If you cannot do that, you don't really want to find love. When I was looking for my husband, I went out at least once a week to a singles group or dance. Plus, I met men through personal ads (online dating was not popular yet in 1998) and had at least one coffee date, if not more, every weekend. You need to create the space in your schedule to find the love you want. If you say you just don't have it, I understand. But you also need to admit that love is not a priority for you. There is no shame in that because finding love takes effort and requires a strong desire to take the necessary steps.
I hope reviewing these lies opened your mind to new ways of looking at dating over 40. Once I found love, I dedicated my life to helping single women over 40 make that dream come true for them as well. Since I found love, and many of my clients have too, I know you can do it!
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The Pursuit of Happiness

Intriguing facts (and a few opinions) about happiness...
     It is our constitutional right to “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.”  Now, if only this came with a specific set of instructions. I’m fairly certain that our fore-fathers long ago wrote these words with the best of intentions. I have a feeling they may have been happier then we are today even while living in world without TVs, computers and smart phones.  The pursuit of happiness concept can seem a bit tricky. I will define “happiness” as “contentment” or “satisfaction” but with an edge of meaningfulness and purpose to it.
     There exists a lot of good research on what really makes us “happy,” and some of it may surprise you.  Some of us are in fact, born happier than others.  But, how much of a role does our genetics play in our degree of happiness or unhappiness?  It may actually be close to half!  Yikes!!! However, before you decide to completely blame biology for your misery, keep reading.
“Happiness resides not in possessions and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul.” - Democritus
How many of you have said to yourself, if I only had ______ I would be happy.  If you haven’t ever said this to yourself, you are lying!  The truth is that in the short term, you might be happier, but then we generally return to our previous level of happiness thereafter.  This is akin to the “set point” theory of weight.  It seems there is one for happiness too.
“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.” – Khalil Gibran
If you have never experienced pain, you will not know what happiness is either.  A person must experience a full range of emotions life has to offer.  Sometimes painful and tragic things happen to us is that are unavoidable.  It should not, however, prevent us from obtaining happiness again.
“Mindfulness helps you go home to the present. And every time you go there and recognize a condition of happiness that you have, happiness comes.” -  Thich Nhat Hanh
Mindfulness brings happiness. This is a powerful tool for staying in the present moment that brings about happiness.  I believe that looking at the past makes a lot of people depressed and looking too far into the future makes people anxious. It is much more productive to stay focused on the here and now. Akin to mindfulness is the concept of “flow.” This is a state of effortless  concentration and enjoyment when you are savoring the present moment.  This happens when we are deeply engaged in a sport, activity or hobby.
“Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Happiness lies in the “chase.” Action toward goals is what makes us happy.  Once you meet that goal, chances are you are going to create more goals to pursue. I emphasize the plural – goals.
“A table, a chair, a bowl of fruit and a violin; what else does a man need to be happy?” – Albert Einstein