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The "Nice" Guy Syndrome That Just Kills Attraction and Masculinity.

In this second article (following on from part 1)I deal with the dreaded "Nice Guy Syndrome" that eventually kills attraction with a woman and takes away your "Masculine Balls" as a MAN!
Jack sent an e mail to me, unfortunately this type of e mail turns up in my inbox often... a guy who "thinks" he has done everything right... is being the "Nice" guy and the women he is with leaves him for another man... sad and true... in the "Mating Game"... Mr Nice Guy so often ends up the loser.

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Jacks E Mail...
"Hey, Ange I've been dating a girl, Kelly, for the past three years. I did everything I could to be the best boyfriend possible. I was totally faithful. Whenever she had a problem, I was there to listen. I stopped hanging out with buddies of mine that she thought were bad influences. (One guy she complained was just too cocky for her taste) When she moved to London for work, I even left my job and moved with her. I pretty much rearranged my whole life around hers.Well, last week she dropped a bomb on me. She told me she was leaving me for another guy. When she told me who it was, I couldn't believe it. The guy's name is Steve and he's an arrogant jerk. He's also one of the big player. I think it's only a matter of time before he cheats on her and she comes back to me, but in the meantime, I'm confused and miserable. Is it really true that nice guys finish last?"
Jack P... London
When I work with a man, I discuss the concept of REAL primal attraction and how most men have NO IDEA of how to truly attract women on a deep, lasting, level.
With Jack, it sounds like his girlfriend liked certain things about him...  yet did not have her LOCKED IN with the powerful type of attraction I am talking about... she took him for granted, and when a more attractive option came along, she jumped ship.
The thing is that ALL men have the ability to make themselves attractive to women.
And it does not have to do with looks or money... it is about displaying powerful Masculine behaviour.
See, the vast majority of women are wired to want to be with Masculine Man.
They need the sense of stability, security and strength that an Masculine Man provides... and I am not talking about physical strength.

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As I have explained before in many articles I have writen in "The Intimate Communion Magazine," showing EMOTIONAL strength is far more important, and hugely attractive to women.
In fact, Rule 1 is to "Master Your Emotions."

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If you want to become the kind of woman that drives men crazy, make sure you have these 4 traits.

I've always said that there's no one woman that all men desire. A woman one man falls head over heels in love with, will probably turn another man off. That said, there are some common traits and characteristics most men desire in a woman. In fact, I'll rephrase that. There are several traits real men desire in a woman.
First, let's just be clear on the difference between real men and "man-babies." A real man will return your calls and texts. He's emotionally mature. He's not afraid to talk about his feelings, and he doesn't panic when you talk about commitment.

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He's a man who doesn't play games, and doesn't expect you to play them either. He's the man that will hold your hand, and cuddle with you on the couch without pushing himself on you, because he's in control of himself sexually. He's the kind of man most of my women readers talk about wanting to meet. So, what are the common traits the real man wants in a woman?
Let me reveal all. There are others, but these are the big 4:

1. He wants you to be playful. Dating should be fun, and men want to have a relationship with someone they can have a laugh with. Nothing turns men off quicker than a drama queen. There's nothing worse than a woman who thrives on some kind of drama or crisis in her life. Real men want women to connect with them on a playful level. Remember in many ways, men are like big dogs. We love to play, and we love to embrace our inner child. So don't take yourself too seriously, and be open to the fun life has to offer. It's all around you. You just need to let yourself go.
2. He wants you to have emotional maturity. Sometimes in life things don't go right, and in every relationship, there are going to be bumps. A real man looks for a woman who doesn't turn into an emotional wreck the second there's a problem. I can't stand seeing a woman throw a temper tantrum in the middle of an argument, and neither can most other men. It throws up a huge relationship red flag for us. We want to know that if there's anything that needs to be discussed, we can sit down calmly and quietly and talk things through, without worrying whether you're going to throw a vase at our heads!
3. He wants an independent woman. Don't be fooled by the myth that men don't like modern women who have strength and power. Obviously, we don' want a woman that's going to bust our balls or treat us like children, but we like knowing you're in control of your own life. We like knowing you have your own friends, and that we don't have to take control of every tiny detail of the relationship. Just don't make the mistake some women make, of not letting the man have the lead at all. We like to feel needed and wanted. Let us come and fix things at your house now and then. We love to play the knight in shining armor sometimes.
4. He wants sexual confidence. Men want to know you're sexually alive. We want to feel like you have your sexual energy turned on, and that you have plenty of sexual confidence. Don't get me wrong, you don't need to be a nymphomaniac, but don't be afraid to let loose and have fun in the bedroom. If you're enjoying yourself, let your man know. Scream, shout, and call his name if he's doing something you like. Men love affirmation.

So there you have it...4 traits that men desire in a woman. Remember, all men are different and no one woman is ever going to be right for every man out there, but make these 4 traits part of your life, and you’ll rarely be without an eager, loving man by your side!

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How To Finely Know What Men Want

This one crazy secret that will make figuring men out like shooting fish in a barrel.

Since the caveman days women have been asking each other and trying to figure out what men really want?  Only if figuring out men was as easy as discovering fire there wouldn’t be any question to what men wanted right?
Men make things so damn hard….

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You try everyday to make them happy, attract the right guy in your life, and nothing seems to work…
What is it that makes a man tick?
How can any woman know what a man want’s? and when his heart over?
Wouldn’t you love to know what makes a man be attracted to a woman? Guess what it’s not your but or how big your breast are…
Men often give off the signs that looks are that matters, but looks don’t last for men when it comes to a long term relationship…
If looks were the only factor everyone would be broken up in a matter of weeks going out looking for the next one..
If you truly want the secret to what men want, you gotta know this one trick….
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Men are confusing, but once you learn this one trick that turns a man in to a gushing love machine for you then he will be yours forever.

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This secret is like shooting fish in the barrel, it’s so powerful that you could almost point out any man in a room and make him desire you….
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How To Grow Your Masculine Balls Back Part 3

Understand Yourself - Your Masculinity - AND Women

I will start this article with a story.
Open, Carry, Kill!

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She stood by the sink, struggling with a jam jar. I noticed, walked over, took it gently from her hands and with a soft, sharp pulse, loosened the top... and for this, she kissed me.
Women speak with their bodies better than we do, and what she was saying was...
“I’m glad you’re here.” And… “I’m glad you are a man.” ”I love men” ”I feel taken care of.” ”I feel complemented and completed and safe.”
To us, doltish men that we are, it was just a stupid jar...  yet it is in the smallest gestures of service that we often make our value felt.
Whenever I am asked to open a jar, carry a heavy box or kill a mosquito, I marvel at the subtle dynamics that go on between the masculine and feminine.
No matter how competent, strong or professional a woman may be, there is always a subtle sexual gratitude that happens in these moments - as if for a moment, we are quietly returned to our core sexual essences.
Male - Female... Masculine - Feminine.
Now, here is where it gets fun and more interesting... women like to joke about it, that this exactly what men are good for... opening, carrying and killing.
So, recently, I found myself wrapping my arms around a woman who said this, looking into her eyes and reframing her comment...
”That’s right. I’m here to open your life to new experiences. I’m here to carry your burdens when you need a strong shoulder. And I’m here to help you kill your little self so you can live as the fullest, most expansive and loving self possible.”
Her whole body relaxed into mine as she seemed to breathe out a lifetime of burden.
“I like that,” she cooed.
And (you will not be surprised here) – I liked THAT.
Raise your expectations of the gifts you bring women, and they will see you with a more deeply appreciative eye.
We, as men ARE here to serve the feminine open... to allow them to open into the love that they really are, providing them a rock of trustability and steadiness... we allow them to open into new adventures by being a guide, by living boldly and by making the world safe before them.
We carry their burdens — which may seem so heavy to them, and so momentary and light to us (especially when they feel socially slighted by another, or unloved in some way)... when we are doing our job right, we bring them back to their core worth.

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And we do kill.
Yes, mosquitoes... and when we are living with enough breadth and perspective and depth, if we are bigger than the moment’s concerns, bigger than the immediate circumstance, bigger than our own piddling little egos and out momentary needs - when we kill the smallness in ourselves, we give life to the breadth and joy of our women.

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How To Be Honest With A Man

Can you really tell a man everything on your mind? Yes, as long as you know these critical elements.

Can you really tell a man everything on your mind — even the not-so-pretty stuff?  And can it bring you closer together? Yes ... as long as you know these critical elements about how to communicate with him first.
Has a man ever told you of some plans he had to hang out with his friends, or travel somewhere by himself for whatever reason, and you pretended to be perfectly okay with it because you didn't want to seem "needy?"
But then later, when he came back ... BAM!

All those hurt, angry feelings came out, he withdrew, and then there's a wedge between the two of you. You might conclude that you can't be honest with a man, when in reality a little tweaking in terms of timing and delivery can make all the difference ...
Stop Avoiding The Issue And Start Speaking Up
Here's something you may not know about men, or even agree with, but it's true ...
A man absolutely wants you to be honest and straightforward with him.
This is what men like so much about the way they can communicate with each other. And, in fact, it drives them nuts when you aren't open and direct.
If they are planning something that you don't agree with, they want you to let them know at the start — as soon as possible — before it becomes a bigger issue or concern.
Here's the beauty of telling a man what you think early on: it allows you to communicate in a way that's less combative and negative than it would be if you were to have it fester in your mind for a while.
Understand The Real Reason He Gets Upset With You
Men don't "automatically" get upset when you let them know how you feel about something. They get upset when they see that YOU are upset.
See, for most men, when a woman tells them something that isn't great about their relationship, men take it very personally. He'll instantly feel like you are blaming him — even though you might not be.
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Why? Men like to think and believe that the woman they're with respects them and sees them as a great man. So when a woman shares something that isn't "perfect," a man will take it as you thinking that he is not good enough — and not just that something happened in your relationship that can easily be changed or improved in the future.
To stop this cycle of a man feeling criticized, or like he doesn't please you, you first need to find a "safe space" before you talk and share your feelings with him. Here's how to do it ...
Create A Safe Space For Both Of You To Open Up
By "safe," I mean telling a man that what you think, feel ,and need will not jeopardize your connection, but instead make it stronger.
Here’s your action plan:  sit down with him today at some time when you're both settled and relaxed.  Then tell him that you respect his feelings, and that you appreciate the way he respects yours. (If you don't believe this right now, simply the act of communicating these words will have a profoundly positive effect on him and actually help create more respect and appreciation — because you get what you give!)
Then explain that communicating as early as possible and allowing that safe space to tell each other how you really feel and that you need to be open and honest with each other in the moment is crucial to your happiness — yours and his.
What you're doing here is essentially agreeing together to accept and allow for each other's real feelings — regardless of whether they happen to please the other person in that moment. This kind of real and authentic honesty is the first step, and the one and only path to a real, secure, and lasting relationship where both partners know that their feelings are heard and respected.
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Want To See Him Again? Consider Understanding How He Thinks

What can you do in the first few dates with a man to make sure he keeps asking you out?

Is there anything you can do in the first few dates with a man to make sure he keeps asking you out? Absolutely! Christian Carter gives you a shortcut into the male mind and shows you how to use this information to make the most of those early encounters.
There you are, sitting in front of a new man you're seeing. Maybe you're on your third date with him, and you're wondering what he's thinking. The chemistry's good, the conversation is effortless, and you feel like this is the start of something really special. And it definitely could be—if you keep a few things in mind about how men approach dating.

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Understand That His Pace Is Different Than Yours
When it comes to dating and commitment, men usually operate on a much different—and slower—time scale than women. Sure, you may meet some guys who will "signal" you out and make their intentions clear with you very quickly. But what you'll normally encounter is that men take longer to decide when to get serious with one particular woman.
At the beginning, a man is just getting to know you. He needs time to feel comfortable with you, let down his guard, and start seeing you as a part of his life. I know it's frustrating, but this is normal. Just keeping this in mind will save you a lot of angst when a guy isn't "moving things along" the way you think he should.
Avoid Jumping To Conclusions & Pushing Him Away
A lot of women don't approach early dates this way, though—they feel intense chemistry with a man, and they think "this is it."  So, instead of merely enjoying those first few dates and being present in the moment, they're already acting like they're in a relationship. They're thinking about the future. I call this the "Instant Relationship"—it's what happens when you assume that you two are a sure item too soon.
Falling for the Instant Relationship works against you in several ways: First, it blinds you to potential red flags. When you narrow your focus to one guy like this, you end up committing yourself to him before you know important things about him. Second, a guy will sense that you have already decided he's the one for you, and he will feel an expectation to deliver when he might not yet be ready. He'll feel pressured, and he may withdraw. So what does that mean for you?
Follow His Lead & Get To Know Him
It means that the best thing for you is to do the very same thing a guy does. Use those first few dates to simply get to know if you like this guy and if he's right for YOU.
Taking your time like this is good for several reasons:

• You get to make an informed decision about whether he's worth your time;
• You prevent yourself from getting too wrapped up in a man before knowing if he is worth it; and
• You protect yourself from getting your heart broken (if you're still checking him out and he breaks it off, you haven't yet determined if he was that great and worth the heartache, right?)

So, even though guys do weird things, this is one instance where you should follow a guy's lead. Treat those early stages of dating just like a man: take your time, have fun, and look out for you. And even if a guy does tell you he's ready to move into a more serious relationship quickly, your best bet is to slow things down in order to find out what this guy is really all about.
When you allow both of you the space to get to know each other without expectations and assumptions, you create the right conditions for a real relationship to develop.  You'll be building a solid foundation of positive, shared experiences that will draw you closer and closer together.

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The 7 Traits Of A Masculine Man

I am going to start this article by making a statement that I feel that ALL women need to listen too.
"That women are to encourage men to be Masculine - who they really are and not who women think they should be. This means women ARE to back off, and let MEN find and redefine OUR MASCULINITY in this CHANGING World and BALANCE between the Sexes!"

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And, for the men out there who have not got a clue who they are and what real women want and need, here goes my definition of Masculinity:
The Traits of a Masculine Man
Confidence...
TRUST in yourself, not only that you can do what you set out to do, and that you already are what you need to be (even if on the outside it does not yet show).
Everything begins with a thought... watch your thinking... there is a saying, it says, "as a man thinketh, so is he."
Becuase a masculine man is a confident man, even in the face of rejection and its aftermath so that it does not phase him and he moves on if necessary.
Are you a truly confident man has nothing to prove and in control of his life?
Courage...
Becuase a masculine man is courageous (I am not talking about being willing to do stupid stunts, either), willing to do what is necessary without showing weakness (even if you are scared to death.)
A man cannot be truly courageous and brave if he does not fear something... if a woman is carrying on and wanting to pick a fight, do not back down and run away (and do not fight either.)
Because a woman is not a child, will you run out the door if a child were throwing a tantrum or would you stay and handle the situation?
Responsibility...
Are you taking responsibility for what happens in your life and stop being a victim... being a victim is exactly what our society expects you to be... be who you really are intended to be - a leader and victor... make plans and carry them out... do not fear failure.
Someone once said, "If you show me a man who has never made a mistake, I'll show you a man who has never done anything."

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Will you refuse to be a victim no matter what you encounter... consider yourself as a "warrior" and victor in all of life's curve balls that come your way... change your plans if necessary, take charge of your life and where it goes...learn from the battles lost and go on to win success.
Discipline...

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